> if I went to a bar (by myself) every Friday night and got a jack and coke
At 30 I had a fulltime job, an apartment, and I worked out regularly. And I was chronically single.
So I quit my job, started doing CrossFit every day, and started going out (acro yoga, goth clubs, blind dates with friends of friends), getting new friends with attractive female friends, expanding my network through the people I dated, getting regular female training partners to normalise interaction with attractive women.
I hooked up with a lot of people, sometimes dating too many people, annoyingly honest about polyamory, and eventually I entered a relationship with an emotionally intelligent, attractive woman who didn’t know I was really an insecure geek on ’roids (metaphorically speaking).
Getting back a job in software and my personality gradually reverted until the relationship fell apart. Decided I should be brutally honest about who I am, met my wife (friend of a friend) 8 months later.
At 30 I had a fulltime job, an apartment, and I worked out regularly. And I was chronically single.
So I quit my job, started doing CrossFit every day, and started going out (acro yoga, goth clubs, blind dates with friends of friends), getting new friends with attractive female friends, expanding my network through the people I dated, getting regular female training partners to normalise interaction with attractive women.
I hooked up with a lot of people, sometimes dating too many people, annoyingly honest about polyamory, and eventually I entered a relationship with an emotionally intelligent, attractive woman who didn’t know I was really an insecure geek on ’roids (metaphorically speaking).
Getting back a job in software and my personality gradually reverted until the relationship fell apart. Decided I should be brutally honest about who I am, met my wife (friend of a friend) 8 months later.