Strictly speaking, you can get traditional vendors to do firmware signing -- but getting them to put your public key in there will be more difficult, with volume most of the big vendors will be... accommodating.
Dell's 12th generation PowerEdge for example has a pretty good baseline outlined here:
So that most of our hot data fits in RAM? I would expect the type of machine you guys are selling to come with 256Gb standard, to be honest (and the cost of another 128Gb of RAM is negligible -- I'd pay a couple more $ per day or whatever for it).
thanks for telling the story. it is encouraging for us as we are bringing up ironic support ourselves.