For me, I've never liked how interruptive and demanding phone calls are. I would never barge into somebody's home and immediately insist on attention no matter what they were doing. But ringing phones are like that. So I definitely notice some politeness-related anxiety when I call people.
I also notice a little bit of stage fright with both phone calls and voicemails. Phones rob you of almost all the in-person feedback that lets you judge reaction. And they also don't allow the sort of self-checking and self-editing that text messages and email do. Once you say something dumb or get caught in an awkward pause, it's just out there.
Neither really bothers me, I happily call people and leave voicemails as needed. But I definitely notice the feelings.
Right, re: demanding/interrupting. That's the main thing I hate about cell phones; people expect you to be on-call at all times and express anger when you aren't; the only excuse being that I was driving or didnt hear it. When in reality I just didnt feel like answering the phone and talking.
For me, I've never liked how interruptive and demanding phone calls are. I would never barge into somebody's home and immediately insist on attention no matter what they were doing. But ringing phones are like that. So I definitely notice some politeness-related anxiety when I call people.
I also notice a little bit of stage fright with both phone calls and voicemails. Phones rob you of almost all the in-person feedback that lets you judge reaction. And they also don't allow the sort of self-checking and self-editing that text messages and email do. Once you say something dumb or get caught in an awkward pause, it's just out there.
Neither really bothers me, I happily call people and leave voicemails as needed. But I definitely notice the feelings.